After the way that the interrogation went, I wasn't expecting them to even try to do the right thing because they wanted to protect both of them.
When I found out about the outcome and what they found in the investigation, I was both surprised and not at the same time because although the supervisor denied everything, the 2IC had actually admitted to making the second sexual comment that I told them about, the one in which he said 'nice bum', but he didn't admit to the time that he told me to bend some more while he was standing behind me when we were dealing with one of the apartment leaks.
I'm not sure why he didn't remember the first comment, although I suspect that he thought that it was a fun thing to do, and he wanted to have some fun as well humiliating me, just as the supervisor was doing so naturally, therefore it became normalised to humiliate me.
Obviously because the 2IC admitted to saying something sexual, he was made to say sorry and shake my hand, which I wished would had been the end of it, while the supervisor came out of the situation completely unscathed because he's a professional liar while the 2IC still had some decency left in him, although I'm sure that he was properly scolded for what he did.
After that came the sexual harassment conversations that I knew had happened with other security staff, but I wasn't included in any such conversation, and obviously that created rumours about what had happened, and by the time that those rumours reached me they were that I made false claims and that's why nothing happened to them.
Even before the rumours reached me it was becoming apparent to me that there's no point of expecting any kind of justice there, and that I should expect retaliation for what I dared do to them, but I didn't regret making the complaint because I couldn't take the humiliation anymore.
The few weeks that followed felt very uncomfortable to me because of the impending retaliation, and it didn't feel as just the two of them are against me anymore, but rather it seemed to me that the manager and HR are also against me.
I also asked HR if I could be moved to another team, as a separation of forces, and she said that she will ask the manager as it is his decision, which seemed as a reasonable thing to say, but when I asked her if I should send him an email with an official request, she jumped and told me not to do that, which seemed to me if though she doesn't want any record of my request.
Stay tuned for next week, that will be the point of no return when they sealed their fate!
As always, Mandarin Oriental are still keeping silent and therefore this comment will cease to appear, although their input will be shown, if they ever decide to say anything.
I can honestly say that I understand why women fear making complaints of sexual misconduct.
This week I will introduce the (In)security manager who was tasked with conducting the investigation which seemed very strange and improper due to his position as our manager, meaning that he is biased, therefore it should be another manager who will have the interests of the company in mind and not the department.
A company that cares about doing things properly, especially one that has other managers, can use the opportunity to make sure that there are no other issues that might come up, kind of a wise procedure to prevent systemic corruption and wrongdoings, so I was already worried that they are not doing things right.
I should also mention that the manager was (supposedly) a police officer in the past, although I personally don't think that he was ever allowed to do anything there besides being a water boy or a tea lady, and it seems that since then he graduated to a coffee fetcher by the way that he was used by another manager, who will also take part in this story, but more on that in due course.
The interrogation was horrible and demeaning to the point that it was obvious that the manager was trying to make me look as the bad guy and to minimise everything, which I did expect in a respectful way that he would try to help the supervisor and 2IC, but it was so wrong the way that he made me feel like a snitch so that I feel regret the complaint about them.
But there was one thing that I felt that I had to bring up and that was the health and safety issues which seemed to have touched a sensitive nerve with the manager, especially one gesture that he did while I told him about the fire risks, and his reply that they are aware and that risk is actually being evaluated, that made me realise that he is aware of things and that means that they are actively suppressing issues.
I remember coming out of the interrogation feeling dirty, if though I was making it all up, just a feeling of disgust by the complete fake way that the manager was behaving, shaking my hand and telling me how brave I am, right after he had handled everything if though I'm an enemy rather than someone who's asking for help.
Next week I'll tell you about the outcome, and although it was quite obvious considering the interrogation, it was still very surprising, especially considering the zero(?) sexual misconduct policy in the company.
that reminds me of a story that my supervisor told me about a girl who worked in the security department and had also made a complaint after someone exposed himself to her, and obviously nothing happened because there was no proof, but the way that he referred to her as a cry baby and how he explained it all, it was clear to me that she was really being abused.
As always, Mandarin Oriental are still keeping silent.
Eventually it wasn't something big that they did to me that made me ask for help from HR, it was that they intentionally made me do a patrol in the rain although I asked for the patrol to happen earlier as the rain was about to start.
The same day I approached the HR person, which she also would play a significant role in the abuse against me, and I told her about everything that happened, and she seemed almost convincing that she really cared, although in hindsight the sings were there that she was faking her empathy.
After I told her the story she asked if I would want to make an official or unofficial complaint, which seemed as a very strange thing to ask, so I asked her what is the difference between them, and she couldn't explain any difference, if though I should know.
Over the next few days I thought constantly about what will happen after a complaint would be made and I knew with high certainty that the supervisor will retaliate and that unless I have an official complaint against him, then he will find something small that I did and inflate it to get rid of me, I knew he will do his best to do something, especially as his tiny ego will be devastated by the complaint.
I also took in to account what I told HR about the fact that a they are both more important to the business than a security officer, and although she assured me that everything will be professional and justful, it was just too obvious that the business will do anything to protect them.
When I actually wrote the grievance, I tried to include everything that happened so that it's all there written down, but I also tried to give them a ladder to help them come off the tree, so for example I wrote about the sexual comments, but I didn't categorise them as sexual misconduct, hoping that they would understand that I'm not trying to get back at them, but rather that I just want them to stop.
It took me an entire weekend to write the grievance while feeling completely torn between so many conflicting interests and how will I be able to say enough to pass the message through but without getting anyone too upset at me which will reflect in retaliation, hoping that they would be professional and intelligent enough to find a constructive path forward without anything happening to anyone, just that they would stop.
Next week I'll tell you about the interrogation that followed and I'll also introduce our manager who was assigned to conduct the process...
And as always, Mandarin Oriental are still keeping silent.
This week I'll introduce the 2IC (2nd In Command), the spineless assistant to the supervisor.
He was actually nice at the beginning and I preferred him being in charge whenever the supervisor was away, but he realised that the supervisor really dislikes me, and he has a family to look after, so he made his choice as to what is more important to him.
I'm sure that he also thought that it would be funny making humiliating sexual comments at me, something that he picked up from the supervisor, so that he can go back and tell him how I reacted, kind of a bonding experience of the bullies.
The thing is that his comments were even more hurtful than the supervisor's because he was a nice person when he joined the team, but I could see how he is becoming a mini-me of the supervisor, and I remember thinking to myself how can he live in his own skin knowing what he is morphing in to.
I should explain that he also has low self esteem issues, but at least he didn't have an ego to obstruct him from moving forward in life, and that all he needed was to believe in himself as I did because he was truly diligent to the point that I offered to help him get in to IT so that he could really fulfil his potential and have a better quality of life for his family, but he chose the path of self disbelief.
As time progressed his negativity towards me increased, but it was obvious that it was driven by the supervisor's presence, which made me feel so much worse because I was facing 2 abusers and the burden was just too much to bare no matter how nice I was, they would never give me a chance to escape the cycle of disrespect just to protect the supervisor's ego.
Eventually the contrast between them surpassed what I could bare, and after a set of shifts without the supervisor, which were actually quite nice because the 2IC treated me with respect, on the next set he completely changed his behaviour towards me and he started to ignore me, literally as soon as he saw me he would turn his head away, and that was so disrespectful and humiliating, if though he wanted to show the supervisor another way of abuse without the need to do anything, probably as an attempt to find the most effective and efficient way to appease the supervisor's chronic laziness.
Next week I will tell what happened when I couldn't take the abuse any more and went to HR for help...
As always, Mandarin Oriental are still keeping silent.
After he had went away I realised that the entire thing was recorded on CCTV and that meant that he could lose his job if I make a complaint against him, or at least that was what I assumed would happen.
But I didn't want to get him in trouble so later on during the shift, once I've calmed down, I went to speak to him and I asked him to meet up outside work to talk about what happened, and he agreed to meet the following day.
Not that I was so surprised that he will try to avoid it, on the following day he asked to postpone by another day, and then again the same thing the following day that became never, which was actually very consistent with his immature behaviour and a low self-esteem that was very obviously protected by his ego which was afraid of getting hurt by what I might say.
The thing is that I wasn't trying to get him to apologise or take responsibility because I knew that putting him on the spot would just make him close up and that wasn't my intention, because I wanted to focus on the way things were done, from a positive point of view that talking instead of shouting is the better path to dealing with issues.
And here I can say that I was too merciful with him because I knew that the CCTV evidence would get recorded over a month later, during which he had to be on his best behaviour, and I optimistically hoped that he would appreciate that I didn't complain and behave appropriately beyond that month, despite not showing up twice or taking any responsibility, but I felt sorry for his tiny self-esteem.
Unfortunately for me I wasn't aware of his antisemitic disposition at this stage, otherwise I would have taken into account the accompanying stupidity that corrupted the mind and soul, and shortly after he went back to his disgusting behaviour with a vengeance.
Now is the time to share another side of him that I'm sure he will completely deny, especially as he is married with children, and I'm referring to his sexually inappropriate comments towards me, he especially enjoyed saying 'Nice bum' and inappropriate voices if he saw me bend too much, and he once even asked me if I want my shit shoved back up when I said that I need to go to the toilet which he excused as a joke by referencing it to a scene from the film 'Training Day'.
He obviously excused himself that It was all just banter towards me, and that is all a joke, but there is always some truth in such jokes and he knew very well how much I hated it, but he was just so amused by my humiliation that I eventually had no choice but to wear the long coat if he was around, just so that he wouldn't see anything, although that didn't stop his non-sexual disrespect and abuse towards me.
Next week I'll introduce a new abuser that also wanted to join in on the fun of humiliating me..
Mandarin Oriental are still keeping quiet and have nothing to say at this time.
One night shift, just as we are about to start the shift, and after the briefing, the supervisor asked me and another colleague to stay behind because he needed to speak to us.
Once everyone else left, the shouting began, and he was so furious at us because of something that I did wrong, which he didn't even explain what was it that I did wrong, and I just felt that something serious had happened because of my mistake.
(notice that my colleague wasn't supposed to be there if I made a mistake, and it was wrong to have a go at him for that, and to have him there while the supervisor is having a go at me is also wrong)
The shouting seemed like it would never stop, and a few minutes after we were already supposed to be in positions I found a silent moment to tell him that it is not fair for those who are waiting to be replaced, so he let us go.
I was so confused and worried that I did a mistake that was serious and that something bad happened because of my mistake, until we rotated positions and my colleague showed me a picture of the key laminate and the mistake that I had done, but to understand it properly I will need to explain the previous night shift.
On that night shift I had asked to do the key auditing report because I didn't do it for a while and I felt that I needed to practice, so I did the audit and I found a missing key that was supposed to be there, but I was told by the supervisor that it is ok and nothing to worry about.
As part of the audit there's the actual laminated form that everyone signs on and they are required to fill all relevant details, and that laminate needs to be scanned once the audit was completed, so before scanning it, I offered my supervisor to double check me to make sure that I did everything ok, and he just dismissed me and told me to scan it without even looking at it.
And to my surprise the mistake was that the entire far right column was empty of initials that were supposed to be initialled by those who took the keys back, meaning that all through the day shift, no one had did what they were supposed to, and the lazy supervisor couldn't even be bothered to look at the laminate, and I need to take all the blame?!?!
I became furious, he was crossing the lines and the way that he was behaving towards me was excessive for the mistake that I did, especially as he is responsible for it as much as me if not more as he is supposed to be responsible, but he was just being lazy as always and couldn't even bother looking at it, probably he was watching something procrastinating on his phone.
I just wanted to avoid the him that night and when it was my turn to go off position and be in the control room, I opted to stay on my legs and in position for another hour to avoid him.
But he didn't like it and he left his comfy office chair and made his way to me, and asked me what is going on, so I told him that I really don't want to talk and asked him to leave me alone, but he wouldn't let me be and after a while of demanding that I will tell him what is wrong, I gave up and told him very calmly and quietly that I felt that the way that he had a go at me was excessive and unfair, without stating his obvious fault in the process, and that the audit process should be written down so that who has responsibility for what is clear, but that only infuriated him further.
After some time that he was shouting and pointing his finger at me, he became so frustrated with my calm and reserved composition that he completely lost his temper and he stepped towards me and shoved his face right in mine, trying to intimidate me, but I wasn't threatened by him, and I understood his frustration and his immature behaviour, and when he realised that I'm looking right back in his eyes and not blinking, he retreated by taking a step back, and shortly after he went back to his comfy office chair and phone.
Stay tuned for next week to learn what happened next...
Mandarin Oriental are still keeping quiet and have nothing to say at this time.
It was quite obvious to me that my supervisor has low self esteem issues, which I attributed to his position at home as a man-child with a wife who's far more successful than him and who has a real profession, and he seemed to me that he resents me because I had motivation and aspirations, which he lacks so much.
Initially I noticed it manifest in his inability to answer simple questions about the building and security matters which he should have known, so that I could learn and understand everything that is related to my job and thereby do my job in the best way possible.
At some point I was given advice that I shouldn't be asking too many questions, and that I should just do as I'm told and shut up, which seemed to me as a very stupid and reckless way of doing things, but I told myself that they are taking responsibility and that they probably know what they are doing, just that they are lazy and extremely slow at doing things.
to avoid making him insecure by asking inquisitive questions, I decided that I'll try to be as helpful as possible, and to try and inject some positiveness and real motivation, but it didn't help and I couldn't overcome the brain rot which was so prevalent, and I felt that especially the night shifts could have been used to catch-up on much needed work that wasn't being done, so I offered to do extra work during the nights, and I was obviously declined.
I also tried to be nice to him and I bought him a small USB power meter (£2) in the hopes that he would appreciate the gesture, but unfortunately for me, I was just too successful compared to him, and when he had built a DYI electro-mechanical game following instructions from the internet, which he had built quite nicely, he got stuck at the end and couldn't connect the controllers to his computer to flash the custom firmware, so he asked me for help because he had no clue why it is not connecting, and within a minute or so I installed the driver and flashed the firmware, and showed him how to repeat the process with the other controllers, which I almost regret now as it didn't seem to have made any real positive change on him, and it might have increased his sense of uselessness.
There was though one thing that I couldn't let go because of the personal responsibility involved and that is the keys and the entire operation around them, because those keys can be used for criminal activity, and the way that they are being audited is a joke, and there is no written procedure, which bothered me because it could be used against me if anything happens, and it felt to me that this gap was left there to give the business an easy path to scapegoat an employee if anything goes wrong, so that they could pretend that they supposedly did everything right and that they have a robust system and procedures, and that it would have been just one employee who did something wrong, and that they sacked that individual, it's never ever them!
Unfortunately they don't seem to think that there is something wrong with having Swiss cheese as a model for procedures, and I can say that as late as a few weeks ago I still found an anomality that thankfully was not used for nefarious purposes, but the fact that it was not noticed for 3 days before I discovered it raises serious questions about the quality of work being done.
It seems that Mandarin Oriental are still keeping quiet and they have nothing to say at this time.
I do want to congratulate (?) Mandarin Oriental for going private, though I'm wondering whether it is to 'streamline' the business, or to avoid the level of scrutiny involved with having the company traded publicly...?
Stay tuned for next week when I'll tell you about the 'explosion' that happened between me and the supervisor over the lack of a written key auditing procedure!
To understand what happened to me and what is happening now, I will need to introduce the supervisor, the main antisemite that the company had decided to help to an extent that even committing serious crimes against me is fair game.
He is no regular supervisor, he is also the FLHSS (Fire, Life, Health, Safety, and Security) in the building, which explains the state of the building very well, as he is so lazy that he is only interested in watching useless videos on his phone in the CCTV room, and yes, we do have a box to deposit phones before entering the CCTV room, and there is a policy that says that this is the rule, but as you will find out, their policies would have been much more useful if they printed them on toilet paper!
I'll start from the beginning, from my probation period as a security officer, specifically 3 things that happened:
These were just the first signs that something was wrong in this company, and I know that it doesn't sounds like much, but that was just the beginning of my ordeal and the discovery that they are dangerous.
It seems that Mandarin Oriental are still keeping silent and have nothing to say at this point.
Stay tuned for next week to learn more about the supervisor and what I believe to be the cause for his behaviour towards me and how I tried to deal with him in a positive way...
Today we commemorate two years since the most vile and inhumane act that had happened to my people since the holocaust, and there are still 48 hostages there who are missed by us all and I wish that they will return to their families and friends, they deserve freedom!
What happened on that day had affected my people all other the world just because of who they are, and unfortunately for me, the antisemitism had reached One Hyde Park, where I experienced it first hand by my supervisor, his second in command, our manager, and the list goes on with a systematic reluctance by management to accept responsibility and victimising me, thereby perpetuating the antisemitism against me.
A week ago Mr Jihad Al-Shamie went on to murder people just because of who they are, but it is no accident that he chose to end his life as a proud antisemite, he had something to hide and he most likely hoped that he wouldn't be remembered for his rape accusations and technically he got away with paying for that crime, and I don't have access to the investigation, so I can't say for sure if he would have been convicted, but then there's the obvious question of why didn't he fight it in court?
There are countless types of antisemites, but there are 2 types that I would like to focus on and explain their similarities and MO:
One thing that is inherit to antisemites is their stupidity, and the way that Mandarin Oriental had dealt with what had happened to me can only be considered as such, but this is actually the normal behaviour that can be expected from projectionists when they are confronted with their behaviour, they entrench themselves even further, rejecting any chance that they get to take responsibility for their actions and to make things right.
Antisemitism is prevalent in the UK, and the way that it is dealt with is abysmal, which I can give personal testaments to after countless antisemitic acts of harassment and threats including an attempt to run me over with a car, and not only did the police not stop the antisemite, at one point they had threatened to arrest me, so I had to leave my job and go somewhere else although he was the one that was coming again and again to me, which I'm sure is a reoccurring theme that many can relate to in the UK.
I learned my lesson not to trust the authorities, and now I trust only myself and God, which means that I had made my own investigation and gathered evidence to support my claims, which will be released in due course.
Regarding last week, although I gave the CEO the opportunity to submit comments or make remarks, it seems that Mandarin Oriental do not wish to say anything at this time.
Stay tuned for next week to learn more about what the antisemites thought that they could hyde...
For my first exposure I will tell you about falling panels and the complete disregard that they demonstrated towards the health and safety of their employees, residents, and guests.
The story begins when one of the employees was taking a trolly through the ground floor, and then without him noticing, the trolly had hit the wall, which is covered by a big wood panel, and the entire panel became detached and fell right on the top of his head, causing a cut to his sculp that required stitches in the hospital.
A few months later a different panel, where some employees sit, was removed by one of the maintenance guys, and some time after he had placed it back on the wall, one of the employees was sitting next to the panel when it had fell on his him, again on an employees head.
I didn't complain about the second incident, but I did about the first one, and I challenged them with a scenario that one of the residents comes back from an amazing restaurant with his family, and he had a bit to drink, and he stumbles over and falls down hitting the wall, causing the panel to detach again, but this time it falls right towards the baby causing him...
To that One Hyde Park decided that "the panel fell due to a heavy impact from a luggage trolly, which was positioned in such a manner as to pull the panel out", basically blaming the employee for an honest mistake that shouldn't have caused him life changing injuries, and what the maintenance manager had to say about it, is quite disturbing, saying that "over the past 15 years, there have been no recorded incidents involving the wall panels", and about the other employee he had said that he shouldn't had been sitting there while he was working.
So according to them the employees are both to blame for what had happened to them, and no remedial action was needed to prevent those panels from ever falling again, not even a few screws that cost next to nothing, were not needed. and after viewing the video of the incident, which I was probably not supposed to have been given permission to watch, I became very disturbed by the ease in which the trolly had just touched the panel, and how fast it fell on his head, which was just pure luck that it ended the way it did and that he is still with us alive.
Considering the above, if the scenario that I had described above, of the father falling and hitting the wall, which then falls on the baby, who would you blame for what would happen:
In my opinion the correct answer is 4, but if you think that it is answers 1, 2, or 3, then please write to me, it will be interesting to see how your twisted minds work!